CAN SHARED RESPOSIBILITY IMPROVE MARRIAGE?

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Marriage is a call to responsibilities and there can be flexibility in the way couples handle responsibilities in their marriage.  Even though this is one of the controversial issues in the society today, there is a need to have a full picture about what shared responsibility indicates so as to know whether these principles can improve marriage.

What is Shared Responsibility?

In marriage, shared responsibilities include:

i.                    Role sharing between husband and wife

ii.                  When couples are on the same page

iii.                Reaching a consensus as a couple on the question of roles as husband and wife

Culturally, women assume multiple roles in marriage such as a role as wives, mothers and worker while men are seen as the family’s breadwinner.  However, these gender roles have imposed a lot of hardship and conflict in marriage in which one partner is most vulnerable and affected.

Responsibilities in marriage includes:

i.                    Domestic responsibilities

ii.                  Financial responsibilities

iii.                Parenting, etc.

Above all, sharing responsibilities does not mean equal responsibility but it means supporting each other on the basis of fair agreement and commitment.  Flexibility in roles can:

i.                    Bring Marital happiness

ii.                  Foster intimacy between couple

iii.                Ease family stress

iv.                 Break gender stereotypes

v.                   Foster balancing between couples

To be on the same page as a couple, we must endeavour to work as a team in which there is balancing between partners.

How then can couples share responsibilities?

Even though these responsibilities can seem bulky couples can tackle it by following these suggested tips:

i.                    Define your roles: Couples should define their roles by listing or stating them out.  This will enable them to determine what needs to be done and who does what.  Also, when roles are defined and known, couples will have a clear picture of their workload and how to handle it.

ii.                  Don’t practice equal split: Equal splitting means 50:50 responsibilities especially in the area of house chores, but couples should work as a perfect team so that they won’t be keeping unnecessary scores in their duties.

iii.                Be appreciative:  Couples should imbibe the act of gratitude for a job well done by each partner, they should recognize each other’s efforts and hardwork and express it out.

Lastly, couples are made for marriage is a partnership and for any marriage to stay healthy couples should be ready to partner with one another by sharing responsibilities to yield better and positive outcomes in their homes.

 

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