FORGIVENESS: AN ESSENTIAL TOOL FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

 

All human beings are created with different personalities and temperaments, and as we relate with each other, we will surely come across people who will in one way or the other step on our toes.  These set of people may hurt us knowingly or otherwise.  But what matters most is how we react to such hurtful situations.  Honestly, when feelings are marred, it is very painful creating unforgettable experience and vacuum in us.  These pains may come from trusted friends, family, colleagues or partners and it normally occurs when we don’t even expect it.  To err is human, to forgive is divine.  Forgiveness means the ability to forget and erase hurtful memories or occurrence and it is indeed a hard thing to do but it is a great ingredient that is very essential and needful for attaining greater peak in life.

Also forgiving someone means letting go of all forms of grudges and resentments and basically forgiveness is not what we do for others, it is what we do for ourselves because of where we are going, our aspirations and dreams.

Forgiveness is indeed one key to success in life and when you forgive when hurt, boundaries are broken and you will also experience an inner peace.

How then can you Forgive?

1.       You can forgive those who resent or hurt you by reflecting on what angered you, accept the way you feel about the whole issue and what aroused or triggered your reaction.

2.      Acceptance: This simply means accepting the result or outcome that emanated from what happened and then acknowledge what you were able to learn about your own personality and about the boundaries set.

3.      Think about the person involved.  Human beings are not perfect and people react to situations based on their own belief or perception, so you must see from their own perspective and take responsibility for your own actions.

4.      Choice:  The choice is yours to express forgiveness verbally or not, but decide to forgive deep inside your heart, do not hold on to grudges.

Finally, to enjoy peace of mind, let go of resentments and hatred.

 

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