THINGS THAT CAUSE FRICTION IN A RELATIONSHIP

People venture into a relationship with many aspirations and expectations.  At the outset of a relationship, each partner desires to have a special person who they can share their joy and sorrow with.  However, disappointment sets in when they realize that their partner is unable to fulfill their expectations and this results into friction between them.

There are many reasons which seems ordinary and ridiculous but contribute majorly to most of the friction between couples or partners and most of the time, they may not even see them as the root of their friction.

What is Friction?

Literally, friction is defined as a force that makes it difficult for one object to slide through.  But when it comes to relationships, it can be defined as areas in which couples rub up against each other and have squabbles or arguments on regular basis.

Now that we have an understanding of what friction means, we can move further to identifying its causes and how to tackle them in our relationships.  The questions now is what are the causes of friction between couples?

Causes of Friction between Couples

1.  Intolerance:  The first question we need to ponder on is – what level of tolerance do we have especially when it comes to our partner’s habits? This may look absurd but as simple as it is, it is one of the major reasons for misunderstanding between partners.

We are created with uniqueness and our background and upbringing differs, so we should not expect our spouse to think and behave like us.  So, we can only grow together when we learn how to tolerate each other by discussing with our partner any habit(s) that irritates us and how we can help him or her with the weakness(es).  Failure to do so can result to a great argument and misunderstanding.   Also, this discussion must come up at a time when we are very calm.

2.  Argument over sharing of responsibilities: This is another innocuous issue, but it is one of the things that causes friction among couples.  There should be a plan on how to share responsibilities and each partner must stick to their own part.  However, couples should endeavour to share their minds with each other if they will be unable to stick to their responsibilities due to factors known to them, and there should be a consensus on this between them.

3.  Unwillingness to make Compromises: For relationship between couples to work, efforts from both partners should not be neglected.  Efforts in the sense that you must be ready as couples to compromise for your partner.

As couples, you must learn how to balance things in your relationship, study your partner’s personality and make provision or allowances for deficiencies if you want to have a good relationship.

4.  Intimacy: Intimacy is a vital ingredient for a good relationship and couples must be sensitive to each other’s needs during intimate times.  Past feelings or disappointment should not be a barrier when it comes to intimacy.  It is a deeper commitment between couples and unresolved issues can have a negative impact on it if it is not tackled.

Lastly, there is no perfect individual or relationship but couples can grow together and have a  healthy relationship if they are ready to tackle and resolve any thing that can cause friction between them.

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