WHEN YOU RESPECT YOUR MAN

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 Men are unique beings and irrespective of colour, race, height and culture they all crave for respect especially from their loved ones.  When a male is respected, his ego is boosted.  This masculine ego is driven by recognition, attention and action and all these can be drawn or gotten when they are given due respect.  More so, majority of men in the society are experiencing what I call gender role strain which is the stress and anxiety caused by inability to meet up with expectations.

However, this can be corrected if every woman is ready to help her man by building up their strength through love, support, care and respect.

What is Respect?

The word respect is a Latin word called “respectus” which connotes attention, regard or consideration and it is also a concept that refers to the ability to cherish, value and honour another person, even if we do not concur, approve or share everything he or she does.

Respect is so vital in any healthy relationship because without it, interpersonal relationships will be very difficult, it will be filled with quarrel, conflict and dissatisfaction.

Although our society talks about gender equality in which everybody has equal right, but these have ruined so many marriages and relationships today because many women see showing respect to a man as slavery and they deem it fit to compete with their man.

However, showing respect to the man we claim to love does not reduce or make us inferior.  When we respect our men, it motivates them to fulfill their obligations, duties and responsibilities.  Also, it boosts their morale and makes them to gain confidence that they need to measure up with our expectations and that of the society.  Other reasons why we should respect our men includes:

i.                    It motivates them

ii.                  Respect shown to them acknowledges their qualities as our man (husband) and father of our kids

iii.                It makes them to love us more and more

iv.                 It makes them to strive to keep the family happy and secure

v.                   It makes us better women

vi.                 It makes people to also respect them

vii.              It makes them provide emotional balancing for us

How then can we show respect for our man?

1.      Motivation: At times, women unintentionally utter things that discourage, demotivate and disorientate their men but masculine ego is most sensitive, delicate and can be touched easily if the right techniques are used to motivate them.  Every man out there needs words of motivation and encouragement.  So it is expected that every woman, especially wives should affirm their man’s effort no matter how small it is.  Men can be motivated without hurting their ego through the following:

i.                    Appreciation: this can be done by:

a.       Nurturing your desire for him when you are together

b.      Supporting him

c.       Giving him attention

d.      Buying things for him

e.       Staring into his eyes and telling him how much you love him

f.        Telling him how much you value what he is doing to keep the home going

ii.                  Compliment: this can be done by:

a.       Let him know that you believe in him

b.      Telling him how much you love his looks and physique

c.       Telling him things you love about his personality, etc.

iii.                Asking for their guidance and opinion on matters.

2.     Show that you trust him: men really feel on top of the world when they see that their women trust them.  This boosts their level of confidence and self esteem.  So, we should strive to show respect to our men by letting them know that we trust and support their decision and visions.

3.     Avoid being pushy: Men cannot function effectively if there is too much pressure on them.  When they are under stress and pressure, they become demoralize and worn out, so every woman must be skeptical about this.  We should avoid being pushy but rather we should be supportive and help them out when they are under pressure and tension.

Lastly, when a man is respected he won’t retract himself from his woman and he will be ready to sacrifice all to meet up with his woman’s expectations and this makes homes to be a haven of peace and security.

Till I come your way another time, thanks for reading.

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